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Manager Conversation Guide
Line managers are the whole ballgame. They are the preferred and most effective messenger for what a change means personally — and they are routinely handed a slide deck and left to it.
Give them this. It’s designed to be sent to a manager as-is.
Why you, and not an email
Your team will hear the corporate message. From you they need four things nobody else can give: what this means for them specifically · permission to find it hard · what you’ll protect them from · what you’ll actually do differently yourself.
If you forward the deck without doing this, your team correctly concludes you don’t own it.
Before the conversation — 15 minutes
Prepare
Where am I on this, honestly? _______________
(If you don’t believe it, your team will know within thirty seconds. You don’t have to be enthusiastic — you do have to be honest. “I had concerns, here’s what I raised, here’s what came back” is credible. Fake enthusiasm is not, and it costs you.)
What are the three things they’ll actually worry about?
___________2.___________3.___________
What’s genuinely in it for them? _______________
What’s the real cost to them? _______________
What can I commit to protecting? _______________
What don’t I know? _______________
The team conversation — 30 minutes
1 · The why (3 min). In your own words, not the deck’s. Include what happens if nothing changes.
2 · The what (5 min). Concretely. What’s different on an ordinary day. What’s not changing — people overestimate the scope and the reassurance is free.
3 · The ask (5 min). The specific behaviours. Who, what, when. Not “get on board.”
4 · The honest bit (5 min). ⭐ The part that earns you the room.
“I’ll be straight with you — this adds about four minutes to each call, and for the first month it’ll be slower and more annoying than what you do now. That’s normal and it’s not you doing it wrong. Here’s what I’m taking off you to make room, and here’s what I’ve asked for that I haven’t got yet.”
5 · Their turn (10 min). Then be quiet. Genuinely quiet — count to five before filling the silence.
- What’s your first reaction?
- What’s going to be hardest?
- What am I not seeing from where I sit?
- What would make this work better?
6 · Close (2 min). What you’ll do with what they said, and by when. Then actually do it, and report back — one loop closed properly is worth more than the whole conversation.
One-to-ones — the follow-up
Two weeks in, ask each person the ADKAR — Individual Change sequence and stop at the first no:
- Can you tell me why we’re doing this?
- What’s your honest view of it?
- Do you know how to do the new thing?
- When you actually tried it, what happened?
- What would keep you doing it in six months?
| First “no” | What they need | Not |
|---|---|---|
| Q1 | The reason, from you | More training |
| Q2 | To be heard, and a real answer | More reasons |
| Q3 | Training, a job aid | Motivation |
| Q4 | Support at the desk, obstacles removed | More training |
| Q5 | Recognition, structure, follow-up | Anything |
⚠️ The most common management error: responding to a Q2 problem (they understand it and object) with a Q3 solution (more training). It’s expensive, it doesn’t work, and it tells the person you weren’t listening.
Things to say, and things not to
| ❌ Don’t | ✅ Do |
|---|---|
| “I know it’s a pain, just do it for now” | “This is how we work now. Here’s what I’m doing to make it easier.” |
| “It’s come down from above” | “Here’s why, and here’s what I raised when I heard about it.” |
| “Just get through the training” | “Let’s do your first real one together.” |
| “Everyone’s struggling” | “Sam found the same thing — here’s what worked for her.” |
| Silence for three weeks | Ask about it every week, briefly, until it’s normal |
⚠️ “Just do it for now” is the single most damaging sentence a manager can say. It signals the change is temporary and not really required. It’s said with good intentions — trying to be on the team’s side — and it undoes weeks of work in five words.
What a manager actually has to do differently
Talking is not the job. These are:
- Stop accepting the old format. Every time you accept the old spreadsheet, you’ve reset the change.
- Use it yourself, visibly, including when it’s inconvenient.
- Run the team meeting off the new system so there’s no route around it.
- Take something off the team to make room, and name it.
- Notice the first person who does it well and say so in front of others, that week.
- Escalate the blockers you can’t fix — and tell the team you did.
The last one is what earns permission for all the others.
What to escalate to the change lead
Don’t sit on these:
- A barrier you can’t remove yourself
- Someone at Q2 who has a point you can’t answer
- Two changes colliding on your team
- Something in the design that’s genuinely wrong
→ Objection Handling Bank · Resistance Decoder · ADKAR — Individual Change
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